Dating in the 1950s
In the s, dating rituals were clearly defined. In this system, dating and marriage were viewed as two very separate entities, with marriage marking the graduation from youth into adulthood. Of course, these customs varied by region. And oh yes, don't forget to open the door for your girlfriend and mind your manners. When a date arrived, the woman was ready to go so as not to keep her date waiting, and she introduced him to her parents.
Birth control gave women power over their fertility for the first time, empowering female sexuality due to liberation from the constant risk of unwanted pregnancy. Separation was often only granted on grounds of bigamy, impotence, or adultery.
Items like corsages, which boys were always responsible for providing, were costly. It might help him feel more adequate in the dating scene by blind dating especially if it is his first dating experience. Fundamentally, the system subverted the traditional approach to romance.
No longer was quantity emphasized, but rather the stress fell on finding a loyal partner. You had to meet the parents first Flickr These days, you only meet the parents when things start to get really serious. One boy wrote to some publication in response to a similar subject. Reputation was also an essential form of social currency that required intimate guarding. Courtship and Marriage in Early America.
One handbook entitled Always Say Maybe suggests ways in which a girl can lure a boy's fancy toward her. Then, a white shirt and a neck tie was considered appropriate. Strangely though, it was customary for girls to be fed at home before going out on their dates. This method is especially useful and practical if a guy is shy and bashful about asking a girl out on a date. Furthermore, society condemned women who broke this unwritten rule, while condoning men's behavior if they chose to pursue other women.
The man practiced common courtesies, such as asking her parents about curfew, helping her with her coat, opening doors, and walking between her and the curb. In the s, it was customary for the girls to introduce all dates to their parents first before they were allowed to go out.
Then again, few other countries have the same social conditions as America. Many boys knew this fact and even benefitted from it. My older brother gave me his suit to wear and mercifully it fit. Here are some of the most interesting dating etiquette rules from the s.
Some places preferred rings over clothes, and others did not. In this customary method, information about the individual was learned slowly as the interactions progressed. When calling was practiced, the female in the relationship held most of the power because men came to see her in her house with her parents present.